Mind your Manners...

Manners and etiquete are very important in our society, they are associate with status and wealth. In other words, if you act the part, then it is assumed that you are of high status.

• Rising to one's feet when being introduced, or when someone enters the room.
• Ladies do a little curtsey and men greet with a bow.
• Never turn your back on someone. When you have to remove yourself from the attention or presence of someone, to answer a door, look out the window etc, you always asked to be excused.
• It was rude to boast, brag or be pretentious. It was considered vulgar. One should always remain humble.

Learning to become a lady with beautiful etiquette is placed as equal to education and is placed with a heavy social responsibility in these days.
In our times, the true foundation of female loveliness is a natural beauty.
Beauty must be natural, with fair and clear skin due to good health, rosy cheeks due to excitement and a zest for life, interesting eyes due to a sharp, educated mind.
Dress must be modest in feminine styles and colours are much preferred.
There is definitely a greater distinction in dress between men and women in our times. There is no room for ambiguity.

MY B-DAY: Count Bak

So, sometime last week I celebrated my birthday, I couldn’t have felt any older. Countess Choy surprised me with breakfast in bed. I was so shocked, she even fed me. An eternal smile was glued to my face… Later on I went to the barbershop to spiffy up for my day. Feeling refreshed I went to the men’s hat department to buy a brand new "Gibus" for tonight’s play at the theatre Countess Choy was taking me to. So I made my way home to pick up my darling wife and we headed to the theatre. We went to “The City of London Theatre in Bishopsgate ” and it was great especially since I was with Countess Choy. Later on that night we went home and I was tired, as I prepared for bed, Countess Choy came out the bathroom with the sexiest silk night-gown on posed in a seductive way and asked “how do I look darling???”………. Best birthday ever.

Count Bak on Men's Hats

Ask any man and he would agree, the hat makes the man. I'm all about hats. I have a large array of hats, some for formal wear and informal wear. My personal favorite is the Gibus, its and opera hat covered in corded silk. I love it so much because it folds and sits under my seat. Other nice hats consists of a tall top hats, for formal affairs. The derby is another fashionable one; it looks good with a lougejacket or a Norfolk Jacket. This was another formal hat. Since hats are a must have thing for any occasion, these are hats I suggest for informal events. The Homburg, a stiff felt hat with a dent in the crown running from back to front and the rim was bound with a ribbon. The Trilby, similar to the Homburg, had a similar dent in the crown but was softer with a wider, unbound brim. The wide-awake, a broad-brimmed felt hat with a lowish crown, was a, countryman's hat. The boater, a stiff straw hat with a moderately deep, flat-topped crown encircled by a petersham ribbon and a flat narrow brim, was universally popular with men and women for the country. Well these are the hats that are very popular among the men where I live.

Ball Room Etiquette

There are many things a lady and a gentleman should do while in a ballroom.

A lady or gentleman should finish their toilet before entering the room for dancing, as it is indecorous in either to be drawing on their gloves, or brushing their hair. Finish your toilet in the dressing rooms.

Always recognize the lady or gentleman, or the director of ceremonies with becoming politeness, a salute or bow is sufficient.

A lady should always have an easy, becoming and graceful movement while engaged in a quadrille or promenade. It is more pleasing to the gentleman.

A lady should never engage herself for more than the following set, unless by the consent of the gentleman who accompanies her. It is very impolite and insulting in either lady or gentleman while dancing in quadrille, to mar the pleasure of others by galloping around or inside the next set.

If a gentleman, without proper introduction, should ask a lady with whom he is not acquainted to dance or promenade, the lady should positively refuse.

Recollect, the desire of imparting pleasure, especially to the ladies, is one of the essential qualifications of a gentleman.

Ladies should not be too hasty in filling their program on their entrance to the ball room, as they may have cause for regret should a friend happen to enter.

An introduction in a public ball room must be understood by the gentleman to be for that evening only, after which the acquaintanceship ceases, unless the lady chooses to recognize it at any further time or place.

A lady should not attend a public ball without an escort, nor should she promenade the ball room alone; in fact, no lady should be left unattended.

Women's fashion ...

Our time period is one of the most complex periods of women's fashion. It relies on the revival of the polonaise, drawn back, bunched and puffed up into an elaborate arrangement at the rear, over a supporting bustle or tournure; the tight-fitting bodice is still short-waisted, the sleeves plain, easy-fitting and finished with a ruffle or cuff, tending to widen slightly at the wrist. The underskirt, trimmed with pleated or gathered flounces, gauged sections, tucking and/or ribbon bands, is trained. The earlier bid for simplicity and freedom is overwhelmed by a profusion of puffs, ruchings, fringes, ribbons, drapery, flounces with additional headings and edgings, and strange combinations of materials and colours. Fashion is very important these days; espically among the higher class, those less fortunate don't seem to care as much about their appearance.

Grooming is of high importance.
No one comes down to their breakfast in pajamas.
A lady's hair is always tied up in a chignon, in a bonnet unless she is still very young.
The ladies always dress in modesty, in good taste and in very feminine colours with beads, laces and ribbons. It is frowned upon otherwise.

My night with Countess Choy

The feeling of love is very delightful.. I was reminded of this tonight when I stepped out for the whole day with my wife, Countess Choy. It was one of the greatest days of my life… First we went to one of Great Britain’s finest dress departments to find my wife the perfect outfit for the day’s festivities. You would never see another woman look as beautiful or as radiant as my wife did today. Before Countess Choy and I headed to the theatre, I had my driver make a detour to the #1 restaurant in all Great Britain. The look on her face was priceless.. she couldn’t even stop smiling. She was even more ecstatic when the waiter sat us…. I love making her happy.. At the table she looked into my eyes and said “I love you”. I’ve never heard truer words. So we headed to the "Wilton's Music Hall" for a marvelous opera. It was so delightful. I can tell Countess Choy was overly pleased by the day we spent together. I plan to have many more of these days with the one love of my life.

Dinner and the Theatre

I was shocked when my wonderful husband, Count Bak, surprised me with a day out last week... Honestly,I had slightly expected him to take me to the theatre because he had been talking about a production he had wanted to see for quite some time. It was called "Idol Therese Titiens". But, not only did he take me to the opera, he also took me shopping and out to dinner at my favorite restaurant. I was overjoyed, especially since I didn't know he was planning any of this... The opera was awesome, and dinner was great. I love spending time with my husband.